What to Do
If You are being Abused
Take the abuse seriously
- It may not be so bad now, but remember that abuse tends to get worse and worse over time.
- Trust your feelings. If it doesn’t feel right, then it probably isn’t. You are not “overly sensitive” or “too dramatic” when you are hurting, whether it be physically or emotionally.
- Abuse can be very dangerous, even for teens.
- Remember, there is NO EXCUSE FOR ABUSE. Jealousy, insecurity, being really nice most of the time, and “having a temper” does NOT make the abuse okay.
Tell the abuser that the abuse must stop
- Make it very clear that you will not tolerate any abuse. If he/she promises to never do it again, hold them accountable. Stopping abusive behaviors for awhile and then doing it again does not count as changing!
- Tell the person you will end the relationship if the abuse does not stop immediately, and follow through if necessary.
- If you do decide to end the relationship, ask for help, and see the Teen Safety Plan.
Ask for help
- Tell your parents so that they can help you.
- If it’s too difficult to tell your parents, talk to a teacher, school counselor, Rabbi, or Youth Director.
- Contact any of the teen resources.
- Contact the police if you feel harassed, threatened, or if your boyfriend/girlfriend has ever been physically abusive.
- Receiving support from trusted friends is great, but adults and professionals can best help keep you safe.