The following are warning signs that your relationship may become abusive. He/she:
Schedules a lot of “alone time” activities and gets upset when you want to spend time with other people.
Always seems to have some sort of “crisis”, “problem”, or “very important thing to tell you” when you are trying to spend time away from him/her.
Texts you or calls you repeatedly when you are trying to spend time with other friends or family. Even if he/she isn’t sending angry messages, it could still be a tactic to keep your mind on him/her ONLY instead of focusing on your time with others.
Makes fun of or criticizes your interests, hobbies, friends, or family. Examples: “Come on, bowling isn’t really a sport, why are you so into it?” “Your friend Jane is such a ditz, I don’t get why you’re friends with her.” “Your mom doesn’t want us to spend so much time together because she’s just jealous that you have a life and she doesn’t.”
Puts you down in a “joking” way. This can be a way of putting you down without being held accountable for what he/she is really doing.
Tells you that you are “just too sensitive” when you tell him/her that he/she is hurting you, instead of respecting your feelings.
Blames you for his/her abusive behavior. Example: “If you hadn’t done what you did, then I wouldn’t have reacted the way I did” or, “You know it makes me angry when you talk to him/her, so it’s your fault I broke your phone.”
Falsely accuses you of cheating or flirting. Constantly seeks reassurance from you that you are not cheating, not ever going to leave him/her, etc.
Constantly checks up on you. Examples: checking your phone for calls/texts, going through your school bag, always wants to know where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing. Asks questions incessantly about who posted a comment to you on Facebook or texted you.
Makes very intense statements about your relationship. Examples: “I cannot live without you” or “I would kill myself if you ever went out with someone else” or “You are my whole world.”
Promises to change and never do it again, but eventually does it again.